We learn from experience
One of the basic tricks to that learning is to remember the specific experiences. And make rules from them. If we remember the experience, its easier to remember the rule and to follow it.
Losing the car
I remember spending 10 minutes looking for the car in the gym lot. Rule – Say out loud where I parked it.
Ken pointed out that I need to say it every time I park the car, not just when I think I might lose it. That’s how you make a habit.
Losing the iPhone
I remember the result of sending my iPhone thru the washing machine. Rule – search every pocket every time before I put anything in the wash.
And a positive experience
Here is Ram’s recent comment: “A couple of days ago, I was quite in a depressive mood and decided my ADHD wasn’t gonna get the best of me so I said “make two of the things in the list!” and after I did them, I said “well, the third one is so easy, you can do it even while watching netflix”. And I did!”
I hope he will review and remember that experience so he can use that strategy the next time he gets stuck.
Hang onto that experience, keep it in the active file in your mind. You paid for it.
Bonus link – another example of misinformation:
Melissa posts: “Poor diet or nutrition defeciency are often the cause of attention disorders as medical studies reveal. “