PRINCIPLES OF HUMANITY
1. If we struggle and struggle with a problem, and finally find something we can
do that works, the next thing we will do is stop doing it.
2. People will choose up sides, and make it into us against them.
3. People need someone to look down on.
4. People lose sight of the distinction between their opinion and facts.
5. If we are under heavy stress, the first thing we will do is to stop doing the
things that help us cope with stress.
6. If a man is under time pressure, the first thing he will consider optional and
expendable is his time with his family.
7. We want the people we are involved with to be different than
they are. We also want the world, and life, to be different than they are.
8. If what we’re doing isn’t working, we will try doing more of it and doing it harder.
question of the day:
Are any of these more common if we have ADD ADHD?
more on routine/schedule- My Name is Patty and I Have ADHD: This is My Story
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Can life just be simple?
About doug with ADHD
I am a psychiatric physician.
I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. I just published my first novel, Alma Means Soul.
Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD
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Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book).
This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year.
As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation.
Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them.
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Oh, my gosh! #1 – I DO THAT!!!! “1. If we struggle and struggle with a problem, and finally find something we can do that works, the next thing we will do is stop doing it.” But why??? It seems so stupid to stop doing the thing that finally works.
homey – why indeed?
it’s hard to change an old habit? we’re more comfortable with being uncomfortable because we’re used to it?
I don’t know. hoping for some other comments with ideas.
as always, thank you for commenting
Maybe we like the chaos? Maybe we like the struggle?
I read a book a long time ago by Julie Morgenstern. It was either her time management or organizing book – I can’t remember which one – that talked about the “conquistador of chaos”. That person thrived on the struggle. They wanted to find a solution but at the same time they didn’t. There was satisfaction in the struggle and the search for the answer. But once they found the answer, the whole issue became boring so they started it all over again.
Her recommendation was that this person should try to understand and accept that the struggle wasn’t as fun as they thought. Giving up the struggle, and going with a solution, would free them up to do other things – more interesting and more productive things.
I’ve never forgotten that because I think I have a tendency to be like that. It’s like you said – the familiar is comfortable – but not necessarily profitable. I could spend my time much better by picking a planner and using it rather than continuing to search for . . . I don’t actually know what I’m searching for .. . I don’t think I’m looking for the perfect planner . . . just something different. I guess if I pick a planner, then I’ll actually have to start doing the stuff on my list instead of just making the list. Well . . . I can see why I wouldn’t want to choose! 🙂 Making the list is much more fun than doing it!!!