With my ADD ADHD I need structure, which comes from routine and schedule. Some people don’t like routine and schedule; it makes them feel confined and they prefer free wheeling and spontaneous. For me, that is not freedom, it is being a prisoner of my whims and a disaster.
Yesterday I woke up late. The market was up, so I got on the computer and sold some stocks. By now, I was way off my morning routine and started feeling disorganized and overwhelmed, couldn’t decide what to do next. So I made a list of the routine things; it looked overwhelming. So I numbered them in semi- logical order. Then I could focus on one at a time, cross it off, and move on to the next.
Overwhelmed was defeated!
To make it worse, I was feeling pressured because I had an appointment to go to. Then my wife reminded me that the appointment was on Wednesday, not Tuesday. Saved me a futile trip and took away the pressure.
Life is good! But with ADD ADHD the simplest things can turn into major issues.
1. Maintain structure.
2. Focus on one thing at a time – that’s one of the benefits of making lists.
3. Check your appointment book frequently, don’t rely on memory.
4. Get things written down – paper, i Phone, computer, appointment book – the fewer things we try to carry in our mind the better.
5. If you can, find a partner who will help you. Check out Melissa Orlov’s book – The ADHD Effect On Marriage.