Homey and Scott raised good questions about coping with ADD ADHD. These questions are especially interesting to me since I’m struggling with the same issues, because I’ve just retired and have lost my schedule and much of my structure, and, coincidentally, am dealing with menopause (yes, in myself – long story).
Not all of you have just retired, but you can apply these concepts to your own circumstance, especially regarding structure and routine and changes, which can disrupt everything.
I thought that when I retired I’d have lots of leisure time, and could just do what I felt like doing whenever I felt like doing it, follow any whim. WRONG!
There’s very few things I have to do, some things I need to do, and lots and lots of things I want to do. With my schedule and routine gone, I’ve been bouncing around from one thing to another, getting some things done, but not really getting anywhere.
So far I have learned:
1. I can’t do it all. Ex: on the guitar, I want to learn some songs, and the fretboard, and how to play jazz, and the 7th chords for jazz, , and new strums, and master the great free lessons on Youtube, and complete the three courses that I’ve bought over the years, and—–.
Need to organize and prioritize. Can I learn two songs, and work on the fretboard, and maybe follow one of the Youtube courses? That may be too much.
I’m currently working on four books, need to choose one.
2. Even retired, I don’t have time for distractions. Caught myself writing reviews of books I’d read, on Amazon. I stopped — “Why am I doing this?” Nothing wrong with it, but what was it getting me? Had other things to do (guitar for example).
3. Need routine. Have some – prayer time when first get up, then e mails, then breakfast and newspaper (can skim most of it, not required to read every word.) Then exercise.
There’s a little time left before lunch, so how to use it? Would that be a good time to do the Spanish lesson? or work on the blog? or practice the guitar? do book marketing? writing? Need to choose, so as to make more routine. (Because I have ADD.)
Again, I realized I can’t do it all. So I made a tentative schedule (on the back of an envelope). Commit to doing the blog on Mon, Wed, Sat; the guitar on Tues, Th, Sat; writing on Tues, Fri; finances on Sat. I may do some of those at anytime, but I’m committed to doing them on those days.
Of course: 1. things come up, and I may not be able to do the commitment on some days, but this is a structure. 2. still need to decide when in the day for those things.
Coming up, more on strategies for this, and more on the new New York Times article, and lots more, and, and – wait a minute!!!! This is what I’m talking about (but I will get to it).
adhd and menopause clik
the have done non list from lucy clik
this one addresses menopause and ADHD at the end clik
really good list of many of our common but less often mentioned symptoms (man or woman, menopausal or not, retired or not) clik