Busy — ADD Tip o the Day 442

If we have ADD or ADHD we tend to find ourselves busy, overloaded, even overwhelmed.

from Lou Ann:

Doing more only to do less — do we glorify busy?

Author Tim Kreider believes ‘Our frantic days are really just a hedge against emptiness.’ We feel we are nothing, not worthy, unimportant or left out if we have nothing to do.

But there is another aspect to it. Perfectionism – that shadow from our childhoods. We want to be excellent – because if we are, we will be worthy of love. So we take on anything and everything that is thrown us. Even when we are aware we are overwhelmed, we find it hard to say ‘NO’. Because we fear that if we do – people will think less of us. So we end up doing more than our fair share.

There’s a lot in this relevant to ADD or ADHD – shame, perfectionism (an attempted antidote to and protectcion from shame), people pleasing, and of course, our old friend, procrastination.  Is “busy” a reality, and attitude, an excuse, or a defensive escape?

doug

It turns out that the studying is going to be a a pretty long series, so I’m breaking it up.

on studying  by Dr. Collins clik

ADD/HD and college  clik

Dr. Ortiz and college  clik

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out on a limb.

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About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at amazon.com, or smashwords.com (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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7 Responses to Busy — ADD Tip o the Day 442

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  3. busydarling says:

    Actually, the main reason I take on too much is because I’m too enthousiastic about too many things and completely forget my own boundaries in the process!

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    • busy, that is ADD. And I would like to make it perfectly clear oh look is that a rabbit?
      we are interested in many things, which helps us be creative, but leads us in many unproductive directions. Don’t we have a hard time setting priorities and saying, no i cant do that cause I’m doing this?
      thank you for commenting
      doug

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  4. homey-
    yes i believe that “busy” is usually an attitude more than a fact, and also it’s usually self imposed. of course this may not apply to a single mother of four who is working two jobs and going to night school.
    thanks doug

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  5. homemakersdaily says:

    Wow! That’s right on.

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