If we have ADD or ADHD we tend to find ourselves busy, overloaded, even overwhelmed.
from Lou Ann:
Author Tim Kreider believes ‘Our frantic days are really just a hedge against emptiness.’ We feel we are nothing, not worthy, unimportant or left out if we have nothing to do.
But there is another aspect to it. Perfectionism – that shadow from our childhoods. We want to be excellent – because if we are, we will be worthy of love. So we take on anything and everything that is thrown us. Even when we are aware we are overwhelmed, we find it hard to say ‘NO’. Because we fear that if we do – people will think less of us. So we end up doing more than our fair share.
There’s a lot in this relevant to ADD or ADHD – shame, perfectionism (an attempted antidote to and protectcion from shame), people pleasing, and of course, our old friend, procrastination. Is “busy” a reality, and attitude, an excuse, or a defensive escape?
It turns out that the studying is going to be a a pretty long series, so I’m breaking it up.
on studying by Dr. Collins clik
ADD/HD and college clik
Dr. Ortiz and college clik