What Does It Really Matter? — ADD Tip o the Day 435

Sometimes it take a significant incident to help us see things in perspective.  That happened with me recently.  Is this particularly a problem for those of us with ADD or ADHD?

So I  got a new strategy, a tool, that helps.

I was running a little late for a meeting (ADD).  It seemed like all the cars in front of me had drivers that were old, or confused, or lost, or tourists gawking, or just didn’t know how to drive (aren’t there a lot of those?). They were slowing me down, and causing me to miss lights.  Well, it was getting to me.  I was going to be late.  Then suddenly I realized, it really didn’t matter.

I’ll be a little late, so what?

When I’m feeling impatient, critical, frustrated,argumentative  or irritated about something, I’m asking, “What does it really matter?”   Usually, not much.

This is especially useful, since my ADD does make me impatient and irritable.


It's been there a long time.  It will be there a long time.  Makes me look very small.

It’s been there a long time. It will be there a long time. Makes me look very small.

some sites you will like:

bonnies replay on how to get started on anything  clik




Bryan’s books and ADDer world clik

i just fixed bonnie link, i think

About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. I just published my first novel, Alma Means Soul. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at amazon.com, or smashwords.com (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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5 Responses to What Does It Really Matter? — ADD Tip o the Day 435

  1. Joao says:

    Hi Doug, the “bonnies replay” link doesn’t seem to be working. Takes me straight to a signup for Outlook page…
    Thanks for your posts, keep up the good work!


  2. caribbe says:

    good one! see you momentarily!!


    caribbe caribbe@live.com


    • i missed the momentarily significance sorry doug

      Your Life Can Be Better, using strategies for adult ADD/ADHD. Living Daily With ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips o the Day blog: addadultstrategies.wordpress.com website: addadultstrategies.com, adultaddoradhd.wordpress.com book at : amazon.com or smashwords.com (e books)

      > Date: Thu, 7 Nov 2013 18:13:04 +0000 > To: mkpdp@live.com >


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