Lisa, Life with ADD, part 3 — ADD tip o the Day 405

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“I’m also terrible with money. My dad had me write down every penny I spent, including cash…that was extremely difficult for me, but it did show me some major “leaks” that I’ve had to fix. Now I keep better track of my debit card usage, and my overdrafts have gone from 5-10 per month (YIKES!) to almost none. We’ve also worked on paying bills FIRST when I get paid, so now instead of paying my utilities when they threaten to shut them off (or when they DO shut them off!), I’m able to get them paid when they’re due or even a few days before. I’m still working on the impulse spending, but at least if I pay my bills first, I won’t be in such bad shape! I’m glad to know that I’m not the only intelligent person who understands money concepts from a logical standpoint but still struggles with putting them into practice…it really makes me feel stupid sometimes!”

“Getting diagnosed can be a challenge for adults! The first time I mentioned it to my primary care physician, he looked at me quizzically and said, “You don’t just develop ADHD at age 32.” Well, duh! So I had to explain my whole history going back to grade school of messy room/desk/locker, unfinished assignments, chronic tardiness…and once he was satisfied that it was indeed a long-standing problem he tried me on ritalin. I take strattera now…dealing with the regulations around ritalin was a real PITA, so I went with a non-stimulant. It works well, but it takes a while to ramp up (weeks) as opposed to the very quick results you get with ritalin or adderall.”

(In response to the post on how to fail.) “Yep, I’ve tried all of those! And they are super successful at keeping you from finishing the project…lol. I’m particularly guilty of #3…I once had a web design project that I did for my church (for free, of course). It was pretty much finished, at least to the point where I needed to get feedback from the group sponsoring the site, but I kept putting off showing it to them (even though they were asking about it regularly!) because I was afraid they wouldn’t like it and I thought I could do better. Of course when they finally saw it, they were happy with it. It’s hard to accept “good enough” sometimes!”

Tips: these are the last comments from Lisa.  She beautifully conveyed life with ADD. 

I am so grateful for all your comments!

doug

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About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at amazon.com, or smashwords.com (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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15 Responses to Lisa, Life with ADD, part 3 — ADD tip o the Day 405

  1. Giselle says:

    “I once had a web design project that I did for my church (for free, of course).”
    I once had a mural project that I did for my school(for free, of course)… It started off with the very best of intentions, became a quest for perfection…and was never completed… It was a struggle.
    Now, I am beginning to see that I am not alone – to understand – and to try to manage my horrendous time management.
    Last year I had a German partner who should have belonged to an old regiment. Surprisingly, my timing was perfect with him – but not my quick unconventional solutions…

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  4. Layla :) says:

    Did something happen to Lisa? You said these were the last comments from Lisa…

    Other than my question, I really identify with the bill issues & being diagnosed late in life…

    Good tips:
    I have set my bills to auto pay online…Yay!!! Except for the fluctuating bills… I have to keep on top of those (try to keep them in the same place…like I do with my keys now)…

    The best scenario is Automatic Payment online! Next best is having my bills received online at my bank with reminders that they’re waiting for me to pay them (I don’t have a chance to lose them!). I really dread the Bill that can’t be delivered online & fluctuates because I am afraid of losing it in a pile… 😦

    Thank you for your insight!

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    • layla- as far as i know, lisa is alive and well, but i havnt heard from her and that was my last time to post her comments back then
      good for you, strategies for bills, thats important.
      thank you for commenting
      doug

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  6. darsword says:

    Reblogged this on Darswords and commented:
    For those of us who have been there this will validate you. For those who have not, hopefully, this will educate both in how bad it can get for those with ADD/ADHD or others who need new ideas for keeping track of $$$$$

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  7. darsword says:

    Oh, I so identify! Reblogging! Thanks for sharing!

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  8. It is hard enoug to accept good enough!

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