In reading some of the issues of folks on ADDerworld, I realize that I have two other principles in addition to the three I’ve already written about:
4. If you work hard and are able to make changes, it will take a long time before other people notice them (or appreciate or acknowledge them). They will continue to see you as you used to be, and they will treat you as though you hadn’t changed.
5. If you work hard and are able to make changes, the people close to you will put pressure on you to change back. They will do this in subtle and not so subtle ways. If you are able to stand your ground and not go back, they will eventually adjust to the new you, or they will leave.
These principles hold true whether or not you have ADD or ADHD.