from a great post from jeff , on common errors in thinking. not really related to ADD, but do you think that we are more prone to them???
anyways, they sure can make ADD worse.
(and how can you controll these helpful little squares that keep popping up whether you want them or not. would go on a post about irritation.)
Making a mountain out of a molehill – For example, if you trip while walking up the stairs, you may feel like an idiot. Truth is, tripping up the stairs is fairly human, and although your friends may have chuckled at it, they won’t remember it in 5 minutes.
All-or-nothing – If you make a suggestion to management, you may think that they will either approve of it or disprove of it. You may not be considering that management might like the “guts” of the suggestion, but just want to do something a little differently to better everyone involved.
Predicting the future – With a bunch of lay-offs at work, you may be thinking you’re next. Honestly, you most likely have no way of knowing if you’re next or not. And chances are, you probably won’t be affected.
Mind-reading – If someone cuts in front of you in the line at the store, you may think that they are a jerk, or that they don’t like you for some reason. Instead, it could be that the other person honestly didn’t see you, or just genuinely thought that they were in the lineup first.
Emotional reasoning – If you start feeling anxious, you might reason that something bad is about to happen… or else you wouldn’t be anxious. Instead, you might be feeling anxious simply because you were startled a few moments ago.
Overgeneralizing – if you walk into a clothing store and the sales representative seems a bit snobbish, you may generalize that all of the sales representatives at that store are snobbish.
Labelling – You may label yourself as “useless” because you are not skilled in a particular area.
Demanding – You may believe that people must treat others with respect, alway be kind, and should say “Hello” to everyone they know whenever they walk past them.
Mental filtering / Disqualifying the positive – If you believe that you are not good at what you do, you may focus on all the mistakes you make, filter out any positive comments you receive, and take any negative comments straight to heart.
Low frustration tolerance – You may decide not to do something simply because it looks too hard. Maybe it’s applying on competitions to get a better job, or maybe it’s doing some spring cleaning. It seems like too much, but once you get started you find out it’s not that hard after all.
Personalizing – If you think someone is ignoring your phone calls, you might be taking things too personally. Instead, they may be too busy to answer/return phone calls at the moment, or perhaps someone else received your message and forgot to pass it on.
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I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better.
Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD
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Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book).
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