A response to Holly on ADDerworld, who is concerned about her anger, and says that she know all the things she should be doing but is having a hard time doing them:
“Holly, you recognize the problem, that it is a problem and that you aren’t happy about it. so you are already ahead of the game. May I respectfully suggest that you may NOT know all the things you should be doing. Plus “should” thinking doesn’t help; it is better to figure out what you “need” to be doing, or even better, “want” to be doing.
So if you can get a coach to help you cope better with your ADD, and a therapist to help you cope with the underlying shame or depression or whatever is feeding the anger, those should be a big help. If you can’t for some reason, the next best thing, which you need to do anyway, is to educate yourself thoroughly about ADD. And there are strategies for coping with anger and temper, and sometimes the right medication helps. there are many good books out there (he said modestly). The Dance of Anger by Lerner would help. and The ADHD Effect on Marriage by Orlov.”
If you can get some help, you want to make sure that they are knowledgeable about ADD; a lot of professionals are not.
you are off to a good start
Brian, if you are there, thank you for the lovely review. You made my day!
I am a psychiatric physician.
I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better.
Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD
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Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book).
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As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation.
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