Sit and Be — ADD tip o the day 360

Getting better at this.  Just sitting takes discipline (willpower, self control) which is not a strong point with ADD or ADHD.  I say, “Oh, yeah, I will sit right after I finish this blog.” and then I jump right into something else instead.  But it clearly is helpful, I’m gonna keep it up.

But I learned that my goal of three times a day was just not reasonable.  Now I am sitting once a day, and i use the timer on my i phone, and have got up to 9 minutes now

Also learned that I need to keep my eyes open; if I close them I drift right into prayer, meditation, or sleep, all good things but doing something, not just sitting.

Of course, I think of the next thing to do and have the urge to jump up but can control it (tho uses up some willpower) and let go of the thought and return to just being.  Realize I used to sometimes be able to do this on vacation, just sit and watch the ocean, or watch the birds and the trees.

This sitting helps replenish willpower, tho it uses some also.  By posting about it, I’m locking myself in (strategy); will have to own up to it if I let it lapse.

Baumeister’s experiments show that when we use willpower, to do something different, form a new habit, make ourself do something, that it strengthens our willpower.  Wouldn’t that be nice?     add, adhd,coping with add,coping with adhd,living with add, living with add,strategies,adult add,adult adhd,deficit

doug

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About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at amazon.com, or smashwords.com (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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9 Responses to Sit and Be — ADD tip o the day 360

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  2. Scott Marckx says:

    We have ducks. They are great for getting me to just stand there and watch them. It is very relaxing. Watching the ducks seems very different from meditating or praying, but I think they are probably related. There is a certain thankfulness, but without consciously being thankful, rather, just enjoying the moment.
    Thank you for getting me thinking about this!

    All the best,
    Scott

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    • scott, that sounds great. it sounds like sitting and being, and mindfulness, and prayer, and maybe meditation- under any label, it is a good practice. i enjoy watching the birds.
      thank you for the comment
      doug

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  3. betsydavenport says:

    Long ago I read an article about how people with ADD can build will power. The writer took to task the many researchers of children with ADD and how they conclude that these kids just didn’t seem able to learn to do hard things. If it takes a student 600 hours (hypothetical number) to learn algebra, it is wrong to say, after a six-week research project, that a child with ADD can’t learn to do hard things. The point is, we get good at the things we do often and repeatedly. People with ADD can already do hard things; with more practice, they can do them better and more consistently.

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    • betsy-
      my previous reply seems to have gotten lost in the bowels of the internet. your point is great. we can do a lot of things well, tho it may take more effort on our part. and practice is certainly part of the equation, as of course is strategies. if our teachers had reasonable class sizes, perhaps they could learn more about tailoring the approach to the individual child, it is certainly not one size fits all.
      here’s to better days!
      thanks for your comment.
      doug

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  4. Angelique says:

    I’ve tried this. Only with a slight twist. It’s called Mindfulness. You sit with your feet flat on the ground, then you focus on feeling the floor beneath your feet. after noticing how the ground feels, you have to force your feet to relax. Next you focus on your calves, then to your thighs, and the way the surface feels beneath you. again, force these body parts to completely relax. when you finally get to your head, your body should be relaxed (after lots of practice), and you quiet your mind. This is a type of meditation, by I’ve noticed that it clears all other thoughts and helps me focus. When I have studies to do, I use this method to relax my body and to clear my mind.

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    • angelique
      that is a great relaxing technique. i think you are right, what i am striving for in the sitting is mindfulness, just being aware, but it is not striving, trying not to try, trying not to DO anything, just sit. my wife says that is a form of praying, and that sounds kind of right too, as long as i am not PRAYING – but just sitting.
      thank you for your comment
      doug

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  5. older –
    i hope you may find some tips on how to do what you need to on here
    thank you for commenting
    doug

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  6. know exactly what you mean, though sitting isn’t too much of my problem. Not doing what I need to is my issue… everything else gets in the way. Good Luck!

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