My good friend with ADD or ADHD says she loves the blog posts but doesn’t have the compulsiveness to put them to use, too disorganized to be able to get organized. She makes notes and lists on yellow stickies but they fall on the floor or she loses them or just forgets where she put them.
So how big a problem is this for her? How much effort is she willing to devote to improving? Some compulsiveness is helpful indeed, but not essential (too much compulsiveness can be crippling); not compulsive enough may sound like an excuse.
She can get an appointment book showing either a week or a month at a time, and keep all her yellow stickies in it and keep it with her at all times (excepting bed and shower). Then she needs to make a habit of looking at it and the stickies at least five times a day. And all stickies go in the book, nowhere else.
She can make sure all of her clothes have a pocket ( if they don’t she can change this, if it’s important enough to her). Or get a pouch to hang around her neck, either inside or outside of her top. Her purse will not work unless it is with her every moment, which I doubt.
If she does this, and sticks to it thru the successes and the lapses, over time she will note real improvement.
Tackle one thing at a time. First she needs to learn how to use the appointment book , then her next step will be to learn how to use the to do list.
But is it worth all the effort? Or would she just prefer to just keep on disorganized?
I am a psychiatric physician.
I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better.
Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD
available at amazon.com, or smashwords.com (for e books)
Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book).
This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year.
As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation.
Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them.
The Bully was published in January, 2016.
It's in print or e book, on Amazon.