I’m Too Disorganized To Organize — ADD Tip of the Day 333

My good friend with ADD or ADHD says she loves the blog posts but doesn’t have the compulsiveness to put them to use, too disorganized to be able to get organized.  She makes notes and lists on yellow stickies but they fall on the floor or she loses them or just forgets where she put them.

So how big a problem is this for her?  How much effort is she willing to devote to improving?  Some compulsiveness is helpful indeed, but not essential (too much compulsiveness can be crippling); not compulsive enough may sound like an excuse.

She can get an appointment book showing either a week or a month at a time, and keep all her yellow stickies in it and keep it with her at all times (excepting bed and shower). Then she needs to make a habit of looking at it and the stickies at least five times a day.  And all stickies go in the book, nowhere else.

She can make sure all of her clothes have a pocket ( if they don’t she can change this, if it’s important enough to her).  Or get a pouch to hang around her neck, either inside or outside of her top.  Her purse will not work unless it is with her every moment, which I doubt.

If she does this, and sticks to it thru the successes and the lapses, over time she will note real improvement.

Tackle one thing at a time.  First she needs  to learn how to use the appointment book , then her next step will be to learn how to use the to do list.

But is it worth all the effort?  Or would she just prefer to just keep on disorganized?

doug         add, adhd,adult add,adult adhd,ADD,ADHD,deficit,attention,strategies,coping

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each one of us has to find what works for us

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About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at amazon.com, or smashwords.com (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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5 Responses to I’m Too Disorganized To Organize — ADD Tip of the Day 333

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  2. scott
    that’s a good tip. i have read about starting the day by visualizing all your’e going to do, but haven’t practiced it. i do sometimes visualize some things, especially completing my exercise, and think it does help. will try to use this some more.
    thank you for commenting
    doug

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    • Scott Marckx says:

      In the book they start slow with visualizing a 3 step process and then build on it, also using other exercises like visualizing words from a magazine or number sequences, closing your eyes and recalling them forwards and backwards. It is a good program that they walk you through, with rewards and other things that help you build it into a habit. Sometimes I wake up and just can’t think straight and it is difficult though. That’s when going for a walk helps, along with just a small aspiration for the day.

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      • sounds good, glad it is helping. i like the rewards and habits concepts, as well as the walk – getting out of doors and exercise, and the small aspirations. some days one small thing is all you can do, but then you’ve done at least something, and then some days if you can get that done you are moving and can build on that.
        thank yo for the comment
        doug

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  3. Scott Marckx says:

    I’ve been going through the program of visualization in the book “4 Weeks to and Organized Life With AD/HD” and I am amazed at how visualizing something helps me stay on track and actually do it. If the sticky notes aren’t working it might be worth trying visualization. Those skills are something that a lot of people with ADD have and we can learn to use them to make up for the things we might not be so good at. Even visualizing looking at the cards at specific times of the day (meal times?) can help.

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