Can’t clean my room — ADD Tip o the Day 292

With ADD or ADHD we often just can’t get it done.  Roni laments that she can’t clean her room and about self flogging.    

To respond – No, you can’t clean your room.  You cannot do it.  You can’t.

But maybe you could clean your desk?  or half your desk?   or your closet? or one shelf in your closet?  then maybe the next day, the other half of the desk, or another shelf in the closet.  Small steps is a great strategy. 

Also, using your creative imagination, you can make it a game, a contest, or a race, and give yourself a nice reward everytime you complete a step. 

You can set a timer, and not let yourself spend more than 45 minutes a day on it.  That way it won’t seem like such a chore.

Of course there is another strategy, figure out how to get someone else to do it!

Roni’s post  clik here

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Puryear’s principle #4 – when what we’re doing isn’t working, we just do more of it (with same result, of course.  It’s like spanking the child to make them stop crying after you spanked them.   More about self flogging later.)

About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. I just published my first novel, Alma Means Soul. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at, or (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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2 Responses to Can’t clean my room — ADD Tip o the Day 292

  1. good point! the plan to do more could be a heavy weight hanging over our head. one principle which is hard to get across is that anything is better than nothing. as always thank you for commenting.


  2. Betsy Davenport, PhD says:

    It is even good to do part of a job, and not plan to do more, later. Getting part of a job done is useful; more useful than getting none of it done, which can happen if we make ourselves promise to do more, later.


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