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Expectations — Add Tip o the Day 282
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I have long been aware of the distinction between disappointment or regret, and being down on oneself. I have had the untoward experience too many times when expressing sorrow over something not working out due to the vicissitudes of ADD, of someone chiding me to not be so hard on myself. I am not. I am simply saying I’m disappointed. Sheesh. (Never mind that the chiding is more like being hard on someone than what I do. Double sheesh.)
that is an important distinction. we do tend to get down on ourselves and we need to learn how to avoid that. there’s a big difference between “I wish I had done that differently.” or “I wish that had turned out differently” vs ” How could I have been so stupid!”
And you make clear that there is a big difference between being supportive vs being critical (chiding).
as always, thank you for your welcome comments.
Good! it really helps me too,when i can remember it. thank you for the comment.
“You can only do what you can do” is worth repeating as many times as needed. This is my new mantra!