The stress of coping with ADD — ADD Tip o the Day 273

She had read the book, and said, “It seems like you try so hard, it might be easier to just have ADD.”         or ADHD.

Well, no.

A) if I didn’t have strategies and keep working at it, my whole life would be a shambles.  That would be much more stress than the effort of coping.

B) once I identify a problem and make a strategy into a habit, then there is no effort involved.  That is the beauty of habits.  (ie they require no willpower).


A couple of tips from comments: 1) robin reports that if you lose something you’ve typed,

 ctrl Z  is undelete.  thats good to know.

2) i think it was nerea? (sorry) who noted the benefits of microsoft outlook.    

comments are much appreciatedadd, adhd, coping with add, coping with adhd, living with add, living with adhd, strategies

About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. I just published my first novel, Alma Means Soul. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at, or (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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2 Responses to The stress of coping with ADD — ADD Tip o the Day 273

  1. 1. good point, when is it worth the effort to become more effective- ie, to form a new habit- and when can we relax and say we are doing good enough? I think it depends on identifying a problem and deciding if it is causing enough trouble to be worth the effort to work on it.
    2. and you illustrate the beauty of habits, once its a habit its no more effort.
    3. and you illustrate human nature, once we find something that really works, we tend to quit doing it..why is that? (fortunately, not always, and sometimes we’ll pick it up again).

    thank you for your good and thought provoking comments.


  2. Betsy Davenport, PhD says:

    I have wondered if in all my effort to become effective, I am just getting more effective at thinking about it, and not at actual effectiveness. Does it make me more effective at assisting other
    people to be more effective, does it make them any more effective, or am I just co-opting
    others (effectively) into sharing my hyper-focused view that it’s possible to
    become progressively more effective?

    After many years of this, I now find many of my strategies have either fallen by the wayside, or become habitual. I hope the ones off by the wayside were ineffective, and not just inconvenient. Etcetera.


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