With or without ADD or ADHD, we couldn’t survive without defenses. But some are more healthy and functional than others. Healthy – humor, sublimation, altruism, et al. Unfortunately we tend to some others, like denial and avoidance.
denial – I look at something I’ve done and say “Oh, it’ll be OK.” It probably won’t. (I want to be sure this is not perfectionism -it isn’t). Or “Well, what I said couldn’t have hurt her feelings.” It did. Or, “Well, if I messed up the math a little on that tax report, it won’t really matter. I don’t need to do anything about it.” It mattered. Or “I don’t need to write out my talk, I can just wing it.” Guess what?
avoidance – If it might be difficult, I just stay away from it (this can be procrastination). I know the taxes are due, but I just can’t seem to get to it. Or I miss an important meeting because I’d be uncomfortable -I might blurt out something inappropriate and it’s embarrassing that I haven’t done my preparation.
The anti-bark dog collar isn’t working anymore, probably the battery, but I’m not sure that’s the problem. Don’t know how to open it (haven’t looked), or what kind of battery it takes, or where to get one. Avoiding it.
Strategies: notice when I’m using denial or avoidance. “Oh, it’ll be OK.” is a red flag: reconsider. Keep a list of things I know I’m avoiding, so at least I’m aware.
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