So we with ADD or ADHD tend to a big dose of shame, and often we coped by trying to be perfect. “I’ll show them; they’ll see I am worth something.” and “If I do it perfectly, then nobody can criticize me.” Eventually we become our own worst critic.
This is all self defeating – we won’t do it perfectly, so the shame increases. Perfectionism makes the task extra difficult and guarantees failure, so we procrastinate. We get tied up in trivial details because everything has to be just right, so we don’t finish at all, or it takes an unreasonable amount of time. We think that driving ourself with shaming and criticism helps us keep going and our standards high, but it really is sabotaging.
Be aware of the perfectionism. . Encourage and applaud yourself for what you’ve done instead of being critical. Treat yourself the way you would want a teacher to treat your child. Refute The Critic. Plan out the task ahead so you don’t get trapped in side issues and irrelevancies. GOOD ENOUGH IS GOOD ENOUGH!
perfectionism tips clik here
good comments clik here (did you notice that this is not perfect? I decided to just leave it, it works anyway)
and shame clik here
more tips clik here