Not good enough —- ADD Tip o the day 237

With ADD or ADHD we tend to get critical and down on ourself.  That’s demoralizing.

I play the guitar – usually I would have  put a self depreciatory comment here, or  put “play” in quotation marks, but not today.  

I am not very good.  Sometimes when I hear someone who is good, it’s discouraging and it gets hard to pick up the guitar for a while.  But I’m a lot better than I used to be, have learned a lot, know a lot, can do a lot.  Tho not good, maybe good enough.  Get a little better every month.  Well, it’s been 50 years,but looking back to where I started, I am actually pretty good.  And that helps me pick it up again, and get better, instead of getting down and letting it go.  A strategy.  add, adhd, coping with add, coping with adhd, living with add, living with adhd, self help for add


problem is i have no talent, except for remembering songs, that’s a gift, and no rhythym.  but i do pretty well.

the book is doing pretty well, selling about one per day, and good reviews – it is really helping some people, very gratifying.  thats what its about.

About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. I just published my first novel, Alma Means Soul. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at, or (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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3 Responses to Not good enough —- ADD Tip o the day 237

  1. I used to suffer terrible depression as a child and as a young teenager. Still to this day I am my own biggest critic. But, there was a change and the critical nature I have now is actually quite positive. The catalyst for this, in my case, happened to be a conversion to Christianity but that just got me onto the right road of thinking. What I was able to do was ‘start again’ and consider myself to be rock bottom at everything and be ok with this. From then on, rather like the “glass half-full” idea, I took anything and everything that I happened to do right or well as a bonus. If I made improvements in anything I learned – even if everyone else around me was better – I rejoiced and delighted that I had ‘bettered myself’.

    I’ve stuck with this for over 20 years and rarely have a down mood now. If I do, I bounce back within a day or so. I don’t think too highly of myself and I don’t beat myself up about stuff. I do tons of stuff but I’m happy to be ‘pretty crap’ at all of it. When, from time to time, it turns out I was better than that, its a good day. But I’m content with myself and the criticism I give myself is always one of driving ahead. “Ok, how can I do this BETTER today?” I don’t beat myself up about it and I encourage my students and children to think the same way.


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