Robin, a professional specialist on ADD, commented:
‘That’s a common thing in adults who are not diagnosed until adulthood – grief. I could get by for a really long time by doing things in my screwy Robin way – I remember erasing the previous day’s homework and writing over it because I’d forgotten paper or whatever in the second grade. This worked pretty well on a Big Chief pad until the teacher one day wanted ALL our homeworks passed up at once and I had to explain I’d been erasing my work (and her red pencil) and writing on the same sheet for awhile. I always forgot about picture day, and so I am shown in a Journey t-shirt in the yearbook for student council or something.
I bumbled through everything in my childhood, occasionally hitting something right, and by the time I got to grad school I just figured I was lucky and had fooled some people. I have a very good memory and that helps tremendously. (But it pisses me off that other people have such crappy memories.) I can read, write, spell, do math, etc., but I cannot take down letters or numbers that somebody says out loud to me. It’s like I am struck with dementia when that happens. It usually takes me a half-second longer to understand what someone is saying too. I have learned to focus intently on things and I can be a dog with a bone sometimes, not understanding I need a break. I tell clients that ADHD is not the inability to pay attention so much as it is difficulty modulating attention according to demands – and hence the hyperfocus that people notice. I don’t find it hard to pay attention to clients at all, because they are right in front of me and I am looking at them and I don’t face the window when I’m working. It took a long time, but I learned to eat regularly enough and take bathroom breaks so I didn’t have my body as a distraction.
Sure, you can use the comments for promotion and such. My brother Jeff has ADHD also and was also diagnosed in adulthood. Between us, I have about fifty good stories of ADHD stuff. I manage very well now with just an occasional blip here and there. I can “unravel” focus-wise sometimes but meds, fish oil and exercise help tremendously.’
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