Need to, want to —– ADD Tip o the day 227

Hope you got the concept of the importance of language, and of the dangers of the “have to”s and the “should”s.  This is especially important if we have ADD or ADHD.

Linda shared a great comment from her daughter – replace ‘should’ with ‘could’.  “I could get started on my taxes today.”  Thank you.  Makes a big difference.

Now we need to understand the difference between need to and want to.  Want to usually means our attention center is turned on, often because it is of personal interest, but it may simply be something that helps us avoid a need to.  We often need strategies to help us get to the ‘need to’.  Just because it is important or responsible won’t do it.  In the last post Lucy shared some ideas that will help.   More next time.   


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About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. I just published my first novel, Alma Means Soul. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at, or (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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