Arrrrgh!!! That drives me right up the wall. Research show differences in the brains of those of us with ADD or ADHD. The patterns of problems that we have are quite consistent and don’t match those of people with “just behavioral problems”, or “just laziness”, or “just irresponsibility”. Yes, there is some overlap of behaviors, but the overall picture and most of the details are different.
I am also not a fan of “He’s just doing that for attention.” I always said, “Well, if he has to go to that extreme to get attention there must be something wrong.”
Some people think we are just using ADD or ADHD as an excuse, and in fact, there is a real danger of us doing that on occasion, but these conditions are real, and cause us, and those we are involved with, real problems. And No! – trying harder does not help.
and the first set of 9 books just arrived. i will try to get them out asap
and it is now on amazon.com but you have to put it in quotes “your life can be better”