The Critic — ADD Tip o the day 187

Many people carry an internal critic, but for those of us with ADD or ADHD it is usually extra harsh and critical.  It’s even worse since many of us developed perfectionism as a way of trying to cope with our screw ups.  This sets us up for more failure (and more shame) since we can’t possibly measure up to perfect.  And then The Critic jumps in.

“Stupid!  Idiot!  What ever made you think you could do that in the first place?  Why do you even try?  You screw up everything you touch!”  etc, etc

This does not encourage us to try the next thing.  But if somehow we overcome that sabotage and get ready to do something else, The Critic pops up again:

“Why try? You’re just gonna screw this up too.  First, you’ll never finish it; it will just be another thing you start up and then don’t finish.   Or, if you do finish it won’t be any good.  Or you’ll buy the stuff all enthusiastic and then it’ll just wind up sitting on the shelf with all the other stuff you never stuck with.  Give it up!”

With friends like that, who needs enemies?  Did I mention procrastination?  Shame? But there are ways to deal with The Critic.  Next time.    

doug

There are nearly 200 blogs now, and yesterday we got 283 hits!  Nonsense, someone’s key must’ve gotten stuck (I don’t think this is the critic speaking).  So we are near a total of 5000 hits now.  And the book is being printed and shipped as we speak.

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About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at amazon.com, or smashwords.com (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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