Don’t sweat the small stuff —- ADD Tip o the day 176

—– and it’s all small stuff!

Heard that all my life, but am only now beginning to understand it – I think.

Having ADD or ADHD we tend to be irritable, and maybe even a little over sensitive.  But most of the things that push my buttons are really trivial.  So I can focus on something else, often a prayer, and think of the bigger picture or the positives, and ask – Is this really important?  What does it matter?  Will it matter tomorrow or next week?

My life goes a lot better when I don’t get hooked into the little things, or clasp a slight or a disappointment or hurt to my bosom.  Just let it go.

This doesn’t mean I’m ready to get walked on or pushed around; sometimes we do need to stand up for ourself, but not on the daily trivialities. 


Still I don’t want to be insensitive when I see injustice being done to someone else.

About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. I just published my first novel, Alma Means Soul. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at, or (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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4 Responses to Don’t sweat the small stuff —- ADD Tip o the day 176

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  3. caribbe says:

    Thanks, for this post, too, Doug. It’s quite challenging for those of us who learnt hyper-vigilance as both a coping mechanism and a tool for survival –so we think, more likely an unconscious adaptation.

    The life strategy: “don’t sweat the small stuff, and it’s all small stuff” is such an important reminder for those of us who struggled to survive –especially through childhood. Then, nearly everything that held even minor threat to our emotional (and sometimes physical) safety registered in our psyche’s as real danger. Now, in adulthood, those earlier traumas are difficult to place in perspective. ADD compounds our capacity to differentiate accurately. Through sharing experiences, strength and hope, we avail ourselves to healing opportunities — such as those posted in this blog. Thanks from the heart. mp


    • thank you. I’m delighted if this helps. the small stuff includes not only personal hurts, which i focused on, but minor problems or glitches or accidents – so we dont have to get down on others or on ourselves. and most of it truely is small stuff.


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