Criticism and ADD — ADD Tip o the day 131

When I’m getting criticised, I tend to wall off and not hear well.  Even more so if I’m getting pressured to do something, which often feels like criticism, as does plain helpful suggestions or advice. Since I have ADD, or maybe even ADHD, all these things tend to suggest to me that I’m being seen as inadequate and incompetent, which pushes the button for the deep pool of feelings of  inadequate or incompetent.  

So I’m spending so much energy warding off the suggestion or pressure and those feelings, that I can’t really listen or consider what’s being said.  I’m missing out on a lot of possibly useful information or ideas.  Usually later tho, when I’m by myself, I can relax and consider the ideas, and often benefit from them.  So that’s the strategy, be open to the ideas later if I can’t be at the time.

doug

I think this may be more of an issue for men, who are supposed to know everything and be able to do anything, and certainly if we have ADD or ADHD.

I think

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About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at amazon.com, or smashwords.com (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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