Problem, Strategy, Rule, Habit? ADD Tip o the day 112

I often write checks on  my wife’s checkbook.  I often make errors in arithmetic.  This causes her headaches.  So her strategy was to ask me to use the calculator.  I agreed.  Next I would need to make this a rule and into a habit.  I failed to do so.  I tried, but using the calculator seemed like too much trouble, and sometimes I would make a mistake even with the calculator.  This strategy didn’t work.  So her new strategy was for me to just write and record the check but don’t do the subtractions; she will do it later.  This strategy is working great, and I don’t even need to make the rule a habit; I just don’t do it.

The premise of the book is to identify a problem, create a strategy, make  a  rule, make it a habit.  Sometimes you don’t need to make it a habit; that’s great!


I am very fortunate to have a partner who will work with me on the ADD stuff.


About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. I just published my first novel, Alma Means Soul. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at, or (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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