As you may know, I am trying to cope with ADD. I need a lot of help. For example, when I pack for a trip, I always forget something, razor, or socks, or medicine or something. So my wife helps me. Did you pack this? Did you pack that? Have you forgotten the other? This is help I clearly need, but sometimes it feels a little oppressive, and sometimes it feels like she sees me as incompetent, which I have been proven to be. So I don’t always respond well to this help.
1. I am making a check list so hopefully I won’t forget to pack things in the future, and will be more competent.
2. I am going to remind myself that I really do need the help and that I need to appreciate it, and try to act accordingly.
3. I am asking my wife if we can figure out a way she can help that makes it easier for me to react better.
I think this combination will work.