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Coach and Therapy for Anger — ADD tip o the Day 386

A response to Holly on ADDerworld, who is concerned about her anger, and says that she know all the things she should be doing but is having a hard time doing them: “Holly, you recognize the problem, that it is … Continue reading

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Commitment — ADD Tip of the day 296

One of the hardest things for us with ADD or ADHD is to follow though, to finish, to persist after the novelty and the initial enthusiasm have worn off (is that one or three things?)  One strategy is commitment. First, … Continue reading

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The Blue Book — ADD Tip o the Day 290

I recommend this book, The Quiet Mind.  This is a spiritual matter, but you will see that you can apply these principles to anything.  The book is new agey, left field, a little weird, kind of  Christian.  It has short little … Continue reading

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Habits, habits, habits — ADD Tip o the day 288

Habits are so important with ADD or ADHD! I just got half way to the river when I realized my fishing stuff wasn’t in the car.  I had taken it out over the weekend while I went on a hike.  … Continue reading

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Alone with ADD —- ADD Tip o the day 230

How do you do on your own?  Alone? My wife is leaving (no, not like that)for five days.  I know the script – the first 3 days will be great!  I can do as I please (more or less).  I … Continue reading

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Good stuff — ADD Tip o the day 215

there’s a lot of good stuff for ADD or ADHD on the web (so I’m flattered that you check this blog), as well as of course a lot of junk.  here’s some good stuff: http://adhdmanagement.com       good tips, and … Continue reading

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Some things I am not good at — ADD Tip o the day 210

I am not good at: (at least partly related to ADD or ADHD) 1. facebook- and I even tried reading the directions, which i rarely do.  mess every thing up 2. linked in – dont understand the concept, how to … Continue reading

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Latest on willpower — ADD Tip o the day 205

Another NY Times article just out, agreeing that willpower is limited.  The people who do  best with willpower are those who use it least. They avoid temptation as much as possible.  If you have a problem with food, then put your … Continue reading

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ADD meltdown — ADD Tip o the day 172

At the Kairos weekend I was suddenly appointed music leader.  Suddenly.  No preparation time.  I had my song book but I thought the page numbers in the songbooks the guys had were different than in mine, so I had to transpose.  … Continue reading

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ADD and reading — ADD Tip o the day 158

I read one of the paragraphs in the little blue book nearly every time I come in or out of the office.  It helps me keep on track and it’s uplifting.  I just noticed that I tend to rush through … Continue reading

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Does ADD Get Better? —- Tip o The day 151

People sometimes ask if ADD or ADHD gets better. Well, there are some programs that are supposed to help, like balancing and coordination exercises, and someone just told me that the memory program at cogmed.com has helped them.  And the … Continue reading

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Decide the night before — ADD Tip o the day 148

The list of five is a crucial strategy.  Then we need to pick one. For many of us coping with ADD or ADHD it is good to make the list and pick one the night before.  When we wake up … Continue reading

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A Mess — ADD Tip o the Day 122

The man said, ” I just hate housework. I really hate it!  You make the beds and wash the dishes and two or three weeks later you just have to do it all over again.” Messes affect us.  They lower … Continue reading

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Balance — ADD TIp of the day 113

One of the measures of mental health is balance, not too much of this or of that.  We who try to cope with ADD or ADHD have trouble with this.  We have to set aside what we would like to … Continue reading

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Problem, Strategy, Rule, Habit? ADD Tip o the day 112

I often write checks on  my wife’s checkbook.  I often make errors in arithmetic.  This causes her headaches.  So her strategy was to ask me to use the calculator.  I agreed.  Next I would need to make this a rule and … Continue reading

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Expectations — ADD Tip o the day 108

I have a lot of things I think I will get done today. I will not.  Writing them all down is a good idea; then I need to make a shorter list, five or less.  Then I need to pick … Continue reading

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Write it down — ADD Tip o the day 106

A lot of negative things had piled up, all pretty minor thank God, but I was feeling kind of down.  I was moping around grumbling to myself and not really enjoying it.  So I sat down and made a list … Continue reading

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Vulnerable — ADD tip o the day 104

“steaming” is a poker term.  When you got a really good hand, and you played it perfectly, and then you lost a big pot because some bozo  made an incredibly lucky draw and beat you, you are likely to be … Continue reading

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The power of lists — ADD Tip o the day 99

I like lists.  I need lists.  I make lists all day long. Couldn’t function without them.  It’s not just the list, having it as a guideline and for structure, but it’s also in the making of the list.  To make … Continue reading

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checking — ADD Tip o the day 78

Last night I tried out facebook, which I don’t understand. I found out what “status” does, tho why is it called that?  Then I tried “links”.  That worked!  Of course, since I was kind of excited and have ADD, I … Continue reading

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Know Thyself –ADD Tip of the day 72

“He who knows and knows he knows, he is wise,                    follow him. He who knows and knows not he knows, he is asleep,          wake him. He who … Continue reading

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Symptoms or consequences — ADD Tip o the day 70

This is something of a puzzle.  Our basic problem is that our focus center (attention center) in our brain is wired differently.  Some of the symptoms that come from that are distractibility, procrastination, difficulty starting, and so on.  Probably impulsiveness … Continue reading

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Thoughtfulness —- ADD tip o the day 63

I did a small nonrequired unrequested kindness for my wife this morning, opening a container that I knew she was going to use later.  She was unaware of this.  I was being thoughtful.  Unfortunately, this was unusual enough that I … Continue reading

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Can’t do it all —– ADD Tip o the day 61

This is one of our problems; we are blessed with a curious active mind and so many things are appealing.  We are not good at setting priorities.  One reason is that often choosing to do A means that we have … Continue reading

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ADD Symptoms —–ADD Tip o the day 60

Many people who do NOT have ADD or ADHD have told me that sometimes they have  some of the same symptoms- they lose their keys, or forget an appointment, or procrastinate, etc.  I believe them.  I think that’s just human. … Continue reading

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Time part 2 —– ADD Tip o the day 57

I am usually early for appointments, because I estimate how long it will take me to get there, add 20%, figure out what time I need to leave the house, and then decide to leave 5 to 10 minutes earlier than … Continue reading

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Time and ADD —– ADD Tip o the day 56

When we are young, our life stretches endlessly before us. We can afford to waste a day, or a few, or a week or so. Not every moment is precious, or at least we don’t recognize that it is. One … Continue reading

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ADD and frustration —– ADD Tip o the day 55

A young lady who was recently diagnosed with ADD describes how frustrated she gets with herself when she messes up and recognizes that she is showing an ADD symptom.  Usually once we learn the diagnosis we feel much better, because then … Continue reading

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Many sites ——– ADD Tip o the day 54

You may be amazed to learn that this is not the only ADD site on the net.  It is not even the only good one.  There are many sites on ADD and ADHD, on strategies, tools, coping , managing, thriving, suceeding and so … Continue reading

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The ADD strategies book- update —– Tip o the day 46

I am working on the 10th draft of the ADD book, and am waiting for input from two reviewers and finishing from another before I can start on draft 11.  Then I have one more final reviewer and then it … Continue reading

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Morals and ADD ———- Tip of the Day 44

I asked a patient about his use of alcohol and drugs,                                                                  he made a comment about his”vices”.      A friend commented on his ADD, said rules don’t work for him because he just rebels against them, said he doesn’t have a  conscience, … Continue reading

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irritable ——– ADD Tip o the day 43

I am very irritable.  I get easily annoyed, often over small things, often over things that really aren’t even annoying.  I thought it was just me, one of my character flaws. I looked up ‘ADD-irritable’ on the net and got … Continue reading

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Diversity ——- Tip o the day 41

We are all different, each one an individual. If you need medication, I don’t know which medicine will be best for you or at what dose.   I can make an educated guess, but we have to try them. We all … Continue reading

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Diagnosis: part 3 -the last part—Tip o the day 35

So, if your’re not sure if you have ADD or not, you can look at all the symptoms I’ve talked about.  You can take some of the free tests on the net.  Then you can see a psychiatrist or a … Continue reading

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Overdoing Tip o the day 21

Too much is not enough.  (Texas saying) We ADDers do tend to overdo we get enthused with a new pastime and go full out, until its not new anymore. I was doing well with my exercises, so I increased them and … Continue reading

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