Tag Archives: living with ADHD

Time, Pressure, Urgency, Impatience and ADD ADHD — ADD Tip o the Day 516

Urgency! 1. I did the hard work – reviewed the records, made notes, and then dictated the report and edited it. It’s ready to go, except there’s two documents I’m missing. I don’t think they’ll make any difference, but I … Continue reading

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ADD ADHD Tips From Homey— ADD Tip o the Day 514

Fresh out of ideas: Although we with ADD ADHD are supposed to be blessed by extra creativity, I am totally out of ideas this week, so I am just posting some of Homey’s great tips. thanks again, Homey. from Homey: … Continue reading

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Blurting Out — ADD Tip o the Day 511

We with ADD or ADHD have problems with blurting out; for example, saying the wrong thing to the wrong person at the wrong time. “Aside from that, Mrs. Lincoln, how did you like the play?” Here’s some guidance on how … Continue reading

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Women and ADD ADHD part 2 — ADD Tip o the Day 509

Follow up from homey (slightly edited): “If it’s bothering you enough to want to change it” is a big one. I have a family member who doesn’t write anything down and she frequently gets herself in BIG trouble. We both came to the … Continue reading

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Women and ADD ADHD — ADD Tip o the Day 506

Too Disorganized I enjoyed meeting again with my friend, the lovely lady who claims that she’s too disorganized to get organized, or to use any of the tips or strategies. She says she doesn’t have shirt pockets, although she guesses she … Continue reading

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Beliefs and ADD ADHD, Controversies, part four – – – ADD Tip o the Day 505

A long article from derek halpern  says it better than I have, here’s an excerpt:   Here’s The Big Reason Why People Don’t Change Their Minds When Confronted With New Data It’s proven that when we’re confronted with information that … Continue reading

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ADD ADHD Controversies part two— ADHD Tip o the day 502

Confusing correlation and cause; confusing cause and effect The blog claiming that French children do not have ADD ADHD carries a number of comments from people  observing that when children  in their classroom are provided structure and discipline they behave well. They conclude that children actually … Continue reading

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Do It Now — ADD Tip o the Day 496

This is a follow up on the “ADD ADHD and living 12 hours ahead” post. If I can do it now, I won’t need to do it then. There are a lot of strategies related to this: 1. It is … Continue reading

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“Everybody has a little ADHD.” — ADD Tip o the Day 474

“Everybody has a little ADHD.” Have you heard that before? Yes, but some of us have a whole lot of it and almost all the time.  That’s different. The quote above is from an article that actually has some good … Continue reading

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Happy Valentines Day, to Everyone Who Loves Someone with ADD or ADHD — ADD Tip o the Day 468

My wife has stuck with me with my ADD all these years.  OK, she has had some complaints sometimes, but she has been very helpful.  I couldn’t have made it without her. She picks up a lot of the slack, … Continue reading

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Knob – A Klutz Story — ADD Tip o the Day 416

Today I reached for the jar of instant decaf, and knocked it over.  Coffee grains all over the counter.  Clumsiness tends to run with ADD or ADHD.  But so does creativity! I got a catalog out of the recycle bag, … Continue reading

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Did It Again! — ADD Tip o the Day 411

This is basic ADD ADHD: Wife asked me to change lightbulb, told me she left the new one out on the counter.  I looked where I thought she meant, then i looked on the other counters, then I looked everywhere.  … Continue reading

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New Information — ADD Tip o the Day 410

You don’t have to have ADD or ADHD to benefit from this: Did you know that if you fill up a big rectangular plastic tub with water, 0h, like maybe to soak your foot in or something, and heat it … Continue reading

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St. Paul on ADD — Tip o the Day 407

yes! We can find ADD or ADHD everywhere if we are just alert to it.  What do you think? Romans 7:15-20 New International Version (NIV) 15 I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do … Continue reading

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Unrestrained — ADD Tip o the Day 396

Has anyone noticed that all of my recent posts are too long? Not this one. doug spouting off?

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The Small Tasks — ADD Tip o the Day 389

With ADD or ADHD, we are victims of distractions, and things don’t get finished. Here’s a simple rule – if you’re doing a small task, don’t let anything interrupt it until you finish.  Make this a rule.  If a distraction … Continue reading

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Not Me! —- ADD Tip o the Day 384

I was looking forward to  La Cruzada, the weekend spiritual retreat. I packed my suitcase and my bedding, printed out the google map, found the church on my GPS,  and drove to it. I was able to find it, tho … Continue reading

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Puryear’s Principles —- ADD Tip o the day 379

This is just human nature, but these issues are more critical if we have ADD or ADHD: 1. we will struggle and struggle with a problem; once we find a solution, we will stop doing it (AA, antidepressants, regular exercise, … Continue reading

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Frazzled, or, does ADD get worse? — ADD Tip o the Day 367

I don’t think adult ADD or ADHD gets better or worse over time, but it certainly does fluctuate.  Right now I’m feeling frazzled.  Too much going on, too much to do.  I’m forgetting things, losing things, making mistakes –  My … Continue reading

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Sticking With It, Part 2 — ADD Tip o the Day 366

My wife, who knows a lot about ADD or ADHD after all these years, said I misquoted her on the last post.   I thought she had asked, “Is it working?”, meaning the whole thing.  She says she was specifically asking … Continue reading

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Procrastination? — or Not? — ADD Tip o the Day 351

With ADD or ADHD, you’ll know about procrastination, one of our main symptoms.  But I think this is about a problem with time, not procrastination.  I wasn’t putting off getting my wife’s Christmas present, it’s just that Christmas seemed so … Continue reading

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Procrastinating Again! — ADD Tip o the Day 342

If you have ADD or ADHD, you probably know a lot about procrastinating.  It is one of our major and most common problems. A very intelligent man is talking about his dishes, which are piling up in the sink.  The … Continue reading

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FREE BOOK — ADD Bonus Tip o the Day

thanks to bryan hutchinson, you can win a free copy of Your Life Can Be Better, signed ( if that matters)  clik here and scroll down a little.  offer ends in November. thats right – a FREE copy of YOUR … Continue reading

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Things that are good for ADD or ADHD — ADD Tip o the Day 300

(ADD tip o the day 300!  imagine!!!) These things are good for ADD or ADHD: sleep, exercise, structure, get out of doors Someone just posted that taking the ritalin just before bedtime helped him calm his mind enough that he … Continue reading

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Organizing — Tip of the Day 299

Kenn comments on people with ADD or ADHD, “We organize very differently than other people.”  I’m thinking about that, don’t know.  Certainly I function better if my desk is orderly and organized. I’ve given up on trying to keep it that … Continue reading

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Commitment — ADD Tip of the day 296

One of the hardest things for us with ADD or ADHD is to follow though, to finish, to persist after the novelty and the initial enthusiasm have worn off (is that one or three things?)  One strategy is commitment. First, … Continue reading

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Hard days — ADD Tip o the day 295

Some days are hard.  I  feel overloaded, not at my best, disorganized, and I can’t get started.  That’s all part of ADD or ADHD, and we need strategies. 1.  if I have more than 5 things on my list of … Continue reading

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Self flogging — ADD Tip o the Day 293

I don’t know if self flogging is a  part of ADD or ADHD, or if we  just have more occasions to do it.  Roni posted about this on ADDer World, and she plans to stop  it, which is good.  Self flogging … Continue reading

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The Have Done Non List — ADD Tip o the Day 287

This just in from my sister, Lucy, who does not have ADD or ADHD, but has been supportive of my struggles and was one of the  courageous reviewers of the terrible early drafts of the book: “A hint for the … Continue reading

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Notes — ADD Tip o the Day 286

With ADD or ADHD taking notes is essential, like making lists.  But we need strategies even for that. For notes to be useful, they need to be legible, understandable, and locatable. 1. I use the index cards that are always … Continue reading

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OCD and ADD — ADD Tip o the Day 284

Remember the movie, As Good As It Gets?  Jack Nicholson with OCD.  That’s the disorder, with symptoms.  But there is a spectrum, from style, traits, personality disorder, to (neurosis) disorder.  The majority of American males have obsessive-compulsive style, which doesn’t really … Continue reading

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Expectations — Add Tip o the Day 282

We with ADD or ADHD tend to overexpect, of ourselves.  We underestimate how long something will take to do and overestimate how much we can get done in a day.  Then we get disappointed with ourself and tend to feel … Continue reading

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More irritation — ADD Tip of the day 279

I’ve previously noted that I am very irritable.  It was a blessing to learn that irritability is a part of ADD or ADHD and not just another of my character flaws.  But it is annoying to be so irritable, at any little thing.  … Continue reading

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Things I am not good at —- ADD Tip o the Day 278

1. sports – lack coordination, not much I can do about it but am improving a little at balancing on one foot (sposed to help ADD or ADHD???) 2. technology —- got book – i phone, the missing manual–  quite good, … Continue reading

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Trying too hard? —– ADD Tip o the Day 277

Maybe I’m trying to change too many things at one time (willpower? with ADD or ADHD we tend to overdo): 1.  learning to just sit — making progress 2.  getting on the net only 3 times a day  –slo progress … Continue reading

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The stress of coping with ADD — ADD Tip o the Day 273

She had read the book, and said, “It seems like you try so hard, it might be easier to just have ADD.”         or ADHD. Well, no. A) if I didn’t have strategies and keep working at it, my whole life … Continue reading

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Psychology of ADD: Shame —– ADD Tip o the day 262

Shame is a deep core emotion, which we with ADD or ADHD tend to carry with us, from childhood failures, inadequacies and criticisms.  Shame involves other people; it’s the way we feel when we think our bad stuff is exposed … Continue reading

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Comorbid: Depression and ADD —- ADD Tip o the day 258

We with ADD and ADHD have a 2.7 times higher rate of depression than the general public where the rate is about 10%. Reasons: 1. Childhood abuse, shame, failures  make us vulnerable to depression.  2. our continued failures and poor … Continue reading

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Long e mails —- ADD Tip o the day 239

When I get a long e-mail I have trouble reading it. I usually get one idea or maybe two and then my attention is gone and the rest of it might as well not be there. Maybe I just skim … Continue reading

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alone part 2 — ADD Tip o the day 236

People with ADD or ADHD tend to do better if someone else is around. My wife is back home and I’m glad, but I didn’t unravel or fall apart this time.  OK, she wasn’t gone that long, but she was … Continue reading

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Putting it off — ADD Tip o the day 234

Most of you are too young to know the song The Arkansas Traveler.  The traveler finds an old man sitting in his flooded cabin playing his fiddle in a downpour while the roof is leaking. The traveler asks why the … Continue reading

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A review (excerpts) — ADD Tip o the day 231

Let me share a review from Linda, which tells a lot about ADD or ADHD: I’d read only a few pages of Dr. Puryear’s book before I unexpectedly began to recognize myself. It wasn’t the idea of making lists on … Continue reading

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Cause or effect? ADD Tip o the day 206

I see a lot of confusion, even among scientists, about cause and effect.  Recently heard a great lecture on the negative effects of stress on our bodies, brains, and minds.  Dr. said that studies show that people who take short … Continue reading

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Side effects —ADD Tip o the day 202

When I recommend a medication to someone (with or without ADD or ADHD), they often ask a very reasonable question, “What are the side effects?”    If I tell you the potential side effects, you are more likely to get them.   So I … Continue reading

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ADD and crisis —ADD Tip o the day 171

We were having a steak lunch at a Kairos weekend and the guy to my left lifted both hands up in the air.  Strange.  Then he put his hands around his neck.  The guy to his left asked if he was OK … Continue reading

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Overwhelmed again part 2 — ADD Tip o the day 157

There are two main strategies for overwhelmed: 1.  Make the big list, everything you need to do.  Make a short list, the most urgent or important.  Pick one, maybe break it into small steps.  Pick one, usually the hardest, focus … Continue reading

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Driven — Tip o the day 141

One of the worst things about ADD is feeling driven so much of the time, like there is giant fly-wheel inside that won’t stop, that I have so much to do, so much pressure and have to keep going and … Continue reading

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“Bill”, the lazy slob — ADD Tip o the day 140

How many of you read today’s Annie’s mailbox (the new Ann Landers), “Husband’s laziness irritates his wife”?  How many of you figured it out? “I have to remind him frequently to pick up after himself and finish what he started. … Continue reading

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What could go wrong? — ADD Tip of the day 137

I noticed that there were some newspapers on the front  of the counter, and touching behind them a vase.  It suddenly occurred to me that if I accidentally bumped the newspapers they might knock over the vase which could break. … Continue reading

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Hurry!! — ADD Tip o the day 136

I sent the book to the publisher and they sent me back a sample chapter so I could check and revise the way they had set it up, the chapter headings etc.  I was very excited.  I was in a hurry … Continue reading

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