Tag Archives: coping with ADHD

Don’t Need Structure — ADD Tip o the Day 519

Escape from structure Camil and others write about being free of structure, “Relief from all this silly rules.” And “Just let my mind fly anywhere it wants to.” That sounds wonderful to me, and now that I’m retired, seems like … Continue reading

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“What Could Possibly Go Wrong?” – A New ADD ADHD Strategy — ADD Tip o the Day 504

What could go wrong? “I know, let’s invade Iraq and capture all those weapons of mass destruction. We have the best army in the world. What could go wrong?” “Ladies and gentlemen, this is your captain speaking. Welcome aboard. I … Continue reading

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Strategies For Using Strategies for ADD ADHD — ADD Tip o the Day 454

Are you using strategies for your ADD ADHD problems? Strategies are the key to living better with ADD ADHD, though medication (ritalin, adderall, antidepressant) can be very helpful. For one thing, it can help us focus enough so that we … Continue reading

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Requests for your help — for ADD Tip o the Day in 2014

I am asking for your input- What new topics would you like addressed here?   Any you like addressed again? Any changes you would recommend? Remember that I love your comments, Thank You! and that you can share with the … Continue reading

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The Small Tasks — ADD Tip o the Day 389

With ADD or ADHD, we are victims of distractions, and things don’t get finished. Here’s a simple rule – if you’re doing a small task, don’t let anything interrupt it until you finish.  Make this a rule.  If a distraction … Continue reading

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Sticking With It, Part 2 — ADD Tip o the Day 366

My wife, who knows a lot about ADD or ADHD after all these years, said I misquoted her on the last post.   I thought she had asked, “Is it working?”, meaning the whole thing.  She says she was specifically asking … Continue reading

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I’m Too Disorganized To Organize — ADD Tip of the Day 333

My good friend with ADD or ADHD says she loves the blog posts but doesn’t have the compulsiveness to put them to use, too disorganized to be able to get organized.  She makes notes and lists on yellow stickies but … Continue reading

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Staying on Top — ADD Tip o the Day 322

This doesn’t apply only to ADD or ADHD: A very good teacher is telling me that she’s thinking of leaving teaching.  She loves teaching but the pay is lousy and she hates grading papers.  She does all her grading on … Continue reading

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ADHD or ADD and Weight Problems — ADD Tip o the Day 298

Anahi Ortiz has some good posts on ADD or ADHD and eating/weight problems.    I have a constant struggle with weight.  I use some of the basic concepts: Drink water before and during each meal.  Chew slowly and thoroughly and savor each … Continue reading

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Good news and bad news — ADD Tip o the Day 294

with ADD or ADHD, things happen:  bad news - I can’t believe that I drove off with the gas hose in the tank again!  3rd time.  I thought wouldn’t ever happen again, have a habit of checking before I drive off.  … Continue reading

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Can’t clean my room — ADD Tip o the Day 292

With ADD or ADHD we often just can’t get it done.  Roni laments that she can’t clean her room and about self flogging.     To respond – No, you can’t clean your room.  You cannot do it.  You can’t. But maybe you could clean … Continue reading

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bleeping insurance company and ADD — ADD Tip o the day 283

Those of us with ADD or ADHD are probably fortunate if we have a touch of OCD also; it helps to counterbalance the impulsiveness and the difficulty motivating to start or to finish.  But it has its drawbacks too.  We … Continue reading

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Things I am not good at —- ADD Tip o the Day 278

1. sports – lack coordination, not much I can do about it but am improving a little at balancing on one foot (sposed to help ADD or ADHD???) 2. technology —- got book - i phone, the missing manual–  quite good, … Continue reading

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ADD and reading? — ADD Tip of the day 276

Joke of the day:       a guy with dyslexia walks into a rab…… One of my concerns is that people with ADD (or ADHD)might not read the book, because, well, because they have ADD (or ADHD).  We tend to buy on … Continue reading

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Willpower #4 —- ADD Tip o the day 267

I’m reading a great book, Willpower, by Baumeister.  We start each morning with a pool of psychic energy, which gets depleted during the day each time we resist a temptation or make a decision.  So we become more and more vulnerable … Continue reading

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Psychology of ADD: Defenses — ADD Tip o the day 264

With or without ADD or ADHD, we couldn’t survive without defenses.  But some are more healthy and functional than others.  Healthy – humor, sublimation, altruism, et al.  Unfortunately we tend to some others, like denial and avoidance. denial – I … Continue reading

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Psychology of ADD: Perfectionism — ADD Tip o the day 263

So we with ADD or ADHD tend to a big dose of shame, and often we coped by trying to be perfect.   “I’ll show them; they’ll see I am worth something.”  and “If I do it perfectly, then nobody … Continue reading

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How to change — ADD Tip o the day 252

Change is hard for anyone, not just for people with ADD or ADHD.  First, we have to make up our mind to change; the payoff has to be worth the effort to us (usually someone else wanting us to change is not enough). … Continue reading

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Long e mails —- ADD Tip o the day 239

When I get a long e-mail I have trouble reading it. I usually get one idea or maybe two and then my attention is gone and the rest of it might as well not be there. Maybe I just skim … Continue reading

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Slogans —- ADD Tip o the day 224

We all have self talk, don’t we? It can harm us or be a useful tool. These are some slogans I’ve found useful in self talk: 1. Do it now, do it right, do the hard part first. 2. I … Continue reading

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We’re all different —- ADD Tip of the day 218

“We are all more human than otherwise.”  HS Sullivan, speaking of his work with people with schizophrenia.  True, but we are all unique too, including those of us with ADD or ADHD.  Several people have told me that the book … Continue reading

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Latest on willpower — ADD Tip o the day 205

Another NY Times article just out, agreeing that willpower is limited.  The people who do  best with willpower are those who use it least. They avoid temptation as much as possible.  If you have a problem with food, then put your … Continue reading

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Delegate —- ADD Tip o the day 166

The computer got messed up so I had to buy a new one.  I’m technologically challenged, so I hired a high school student to set it up.  I could have done the first part, but there were lots of complicated issues … Continue reading

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Hurry!! — ADD Tip o the day 136

I sent the book to the publisher and they sent me back a sample chapter so I could check and revise the way they had set it up, the chapter headings etc.  I was very excited.  I was in a hurry … Continue reading

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