Tag Archives: coping with ADD

Strategies For Using Strategies for ADD ADHD — ADD Tip o the Day 454

Are you using strategies for your ADD ADHD problems? Strategies are the key to living better with ADD ADHD, though medication (ritalin, adderall, antidepressant) can be very helpful. For one thing, it can help us focus enough so that we … Continue reading

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Unrestrained — ADD Tip o the Day 396

Has anyone noticed that all of my recent posts are too long? Not this one. doug spouting off?

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Change — ADD Tip o the Day 374

If we have ADD or ADHD we need to be open to change, to find strategies to our lives go better. Change can be hard.  Often we don’t even realize that change is an option.  Therapists talk about patients who … Continue reading

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I’m Too Disorganized To Organize — ADD Tip of the Day 333

My good friend with ADD or ADHD says she loves the blog posts but doesn’t have the compulsiveness to put them to use, too disorganized to be able to get organized.  She makes notes and lists on yellow stickies but … Continue reading

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Good news and bad news — ADD Tip o the Day 294

with ADD or ADHD, things happen:  bad news - I can’t believe that I drove off with the gas hose in the tank again!  3rd time.  I thought wouldn’t ever happen again, have a habit of checking before I drive off.  … Continue reading

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Self flogging — ADD Tip o the Day 293

I don’t know if self flogging is a  part of ADD or ADHD, or if we  just have more occasions to do it.  Roni posted about this on ADDer World, and she plans to stop  it, which is good.  Self flogging … Continue reading

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bleeping insurance company and ADD — ADD Tip o the day 283

Those of us with ADD or ADHD are probably fortunate if we have a touch of OCD also; it helps to counterbalance the impulsiveness and the difficulty motivating to start or to finish.  But it has its drawbacks too.  We … Continue reading

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Things I am not good at —- ADD Tip o the Day 278

1. sports – lack coordination, not much I can do about it but am improving a little at balancing on one foot (sposed to help ADD or ADHD???) 2. technology —- got book - i phone, the missing manual–  quite good, … Continue reading

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ADD and reading? — ADD Tip of the day 276

Joke of the day:       a guy with dyslexia walks into a rab…… One of my concerns is that people with ADD (or ADHD)might not read the book, because, well, because they have ADD (or ADHD).  We tend to buy on … Continue reading

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Bookkeeping?— ADD Tip o the Day 272

Do I hate bookkeeping because I’m no good at it, or am I no good at it because I hate it?  Or because I have ADD? (can you think of any other word in English with kk in it?) Maybe it … Continue reading

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Psychology of ADD: Defenses — ADD Tip o the day 264

With or without ADD or ADHD, we couldn’t survive without defenses.  But some are more healthy and functional than others.  Healthy – humor, sublimation, altruism, et al.  Unfortunately we tend to some others, like denial and avoidance. denial – I … Continue reading

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Psychology of ADD: Perfectionism — ADD Tip o the day 263

So we with ADD or ADHD tend to a big dose of shame, and often we coped by trying to be perfect.   “I’ll show them; they’ll see I am worth something.”  and “If I do it perfectly, then nobody … Continue reading

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How to change — ADD Tip o the day 252

Change is hard for anyone, not just for people with ADD or ADHD.  First, we have to make up our mind to change; the payoff has to be worth the effort to us (usually someone else wanting us to change is not enough). … Continue reading

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Long e mails —- ADD Tip o the day 239

When I get a long e-mail I have trouble reading it. I usually get one idea or maybe two and then my attention is gone and the rest of it might as well not be there. Maybe I just skim … Continue reading

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Want to — ADD tip o the day 228

“want to” can be a booger when it overwhelms “need to”, but it can also be a great helper.  Recent posts showed the dangers of “have to” and “should” and the advantages of “need to” and “could”.  But even better … Continue reading

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Slogans —- ADD Tip o the day 224

We all have self talk, don’t we? It can harm us or be a useful tool. These are some slogans I’ve found useful in self talk: 1. Do it now, do it right, do the hard part first. 2. I … Continue reading

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ADD and rule number 7 —ADD tip o the day 219

A businessman was sitting in the office of a CEO when the secretary burst in – ” Excuse me for interrupting but there’s a big problem!  Joe just called and he said -so and so and so on–” The CEO listened … Continue reading

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We’re all different —- ADD Tip of the day 218

“We are all more human than otherwise.”  HS Sullivan, speaking of his work with people with schizophrenia.  True, but we are all unique too, including those of us with ADD or ADHD.  Several people have told me that the book … Continue reading

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Dithering —- ADD Tip o the day 213

Do you sometimes get in a dither?  A few days ago I was dithering (is that a word?)  Had a lot to do, tho no more than usual.  Couldn’t get going.  Couldn’t decide where to start.  Went this way, then … Continue reading

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Latest on willpower — ADD Tip o the day 205

Another NY Times article just out, agreeing that willpower is limited.  The people who do  best with willpower are those who use it least. They avoid temptation as much as possible.  If you have a problem with food, then put your … Continue reading

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Overwhelmed part 4 —- ADD Tip o the day 194

So the third type of overwhelmed I might call “frantic”.  My wife called me, “Come on, Doug, let’s go, we’re going to be late.  And would you make sure the doors are locked and take out the gargbage.”  I was … Continue reading

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Coping with The Critic —-ADD Tip o the day 188

Our inner critic can really sabotage us, especially if we have ADD or ADHD and there are so many opportunities for criticism and it falls on such fertile ground.  But we can use strategies to cope: 1.  spotting – this is … Continue reading

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ADD and outdoors — ADD Tip o the day 184

When I am stressed, worried, feel overloaded, I look at the mountains and remark that they were here long before I came and they will be here long after I’m gone.  It helps put things in perspective. When I am … Continue reading

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Delegate —- ADD Tip o the day 166

The computer got messed up so I had to buy a new one.  I’m technologically challenged, so I hired a high school student to set it up.  I could have done the first part, but there were lots of complicated issues … Continue reading

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ADD and reading — ADD Tip o the day 158

I read one of the paragraphs in the little blue book nearly every time I come in or out of the office.  It helps me keep on track and it’s uplifting.  I just noticed that I tend to rush through … Continue reading

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Handwriting — ADD Tip o the day 147

Believe it or not, my handwriting continues to get better.  It is almost semi legible most of the time now.  I just had this fantastic insight- if I want my handwriting to be better I need to focus some of my attention on how … Continue reading

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Avoid decisions — ADD Tip o the day 146

It is impressive how the new research on decision making confirms the ADD or ADHD strategies in the book.  Having rules to follow minimizes the need to make decisions, just follow the rule.  For example, I never have to decide … Continue reading

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What could go wrong? — ADD Tip of the day 137

I noticed that there were some newspapers on the front  of the counter, and touching behind them a vase.  It suddenly occurred to me that if I accidentally bumped the newspapers they might knock over the vase which could break. … Continue reading

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Hurry!! — ADD Tip o the day 136

I sent the book to the publisher and they sent me back a sample chapter so I could check and revise the way they had set it up, the chapter headings etc.  I was very excited.  I was in a hurry … Continue reading

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Distraction — ADD Tip o the day 135

My wife and I had a running disagreement about my colleges grades, she thought I was putting myself down and saying they were worse than they were.  So I ordered my transcript.  I didn’t know that I had ADD when … Continue reading

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