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Your Life Can Be Better

The book, Your Life Can Be Better:         Using strategies for adult ADD/ADHD
is about the ways I and my friends and my patients have learned to cope with our ADD.
I am not quite perfect yet, so I will happy to hear from others about their coping strategies, or their comments about mine.

Hoping for lots of comments!

The book focuses on strategies for coping with the problems that ADD or ADHD causes.  The Principle is to identify a specific problem, create a strategy, make a rule, stick with it until it becomes a habit.  It is important to only try to change one or two things at a time.

The next book,

Living Daily with ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips of the Day

came out in August 2013 , as an e book, for Kindle or other platforms. It is not a book, to sit down and read.  It is like a ‘daily devotional’, with one tip a page, to be read one a day, at your own pace.

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for Smashwords, non Kindle platforms   clik and clik

best wishes

doug

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  5. darsword says:

    I get so much out of your blog that I am nominating you for the Versatile Blogger Award:
    http://darsword.wordpress.com/2013/08/12/versatile-blogger-award/

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  6. sierra- thank you!
    doug

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  7. sierra529 says:

    I discovered your book yesterday and read it mostly in one sitting. I am also a medical professional with my own practice and constantly am looking for and developing “strategies.” Your tips for sticking with them, developing “rules” etc. are just what I need. It is indeed thorough and extensive, but broken down enough to prevent overwhelm. I am just of course impatient and wanting to implement it all right away. Unfortunately, my spouse likely has ADD as well, and so disorganization and forgetfulness tend to be the rule rather than the exception in my household. I will try to get him to read it as well, but he doesn’t usually finish books… ;-) Thanks so much, your book is worth more to me all the rest of them put together!

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    • sierra- thank you for the heartwarming comment, made my day. you remember about the concept of not trying to change too much at once, pick maybe the most important one or two. and would your spouse maybe read it at a chapter at at time?
      and i hate to be pushy, but——
      it would be lovely if you wanted to copy your wonderful comment and post it as a review on amazon or where ever you got the book.
      loved your gravitar!!!!!
      best wishes,
      doug

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      • sierra529 says:

        Yes was planning to do just that (leave a comment on Amazon)! Others’ comments there are partly what convinced me to get the book. And yes, I could probably coax my DH to read it. I felt like they must have created that gravitar image with me in mind somehow…

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    • random,
      yes, i use ADD mostly, because thats what i mostly have. for most men the H mostly wears out at adolescence. and for most women, its just ADD and not ADHD.
      thanks for the ping (tho i’m not sure what a ping is. is this a comment?
      doug

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  9. Mary Rettig says:

    I loved your book. I read it on my Kindle. I finished it in 24 hours, I usually do not finish books. I love workbook for they are easy for me to read. I have LD pretty bad and OCD. Not sure if I have ADD or not. Some DR say I do others says I don’t. My mom said that I had attention problems as a child. Well your book helped me.

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  10. Thanks, Doug. As a matter of fact, the book you referenced was the first book that I read that gave me a clue that I was seeing the effects of adult ADD in myself and in my relationships with my wife. Found yours when I was focused on downloading everything I could find on Amazon for download to my kindle. Discovered for me, that downloading free samples is the best way for me to go. Used to buy all the books that interested me, but you can imagine what that ended up being like. As soon as I read the sample of your book, I bought the book on my kindle DX and read a chapter at a time. So far I’m only up to chapter 16, so I’ve got a long way to go, but your book is my “go to book” now. I’ve deleted most of the other samples, so I’m not so scattered.

    When you put that little drawing of your computer desk and computer in there, that really made an impact on me. That could have been mine! Almost exactly as to what you have and where you have it. You are now the ADD guy I refer to more than any. I refer to you as “The Doc” when I’m talking about your book with my wife. You have helped me more to understand myself and that has helped me to be able to talk about lots of things that I never really understood very well, and never could talk about because I had no “vocabulary” to refer to. You have given me a wonderful gift, and I can’t thank you enough for taking the time to write that book!

    Oh, HSP is another thing that I have recently come to realize has an effect on my life as well as my wife. It stands for Highly Sensitive Person. The book I’m reading right now, along with yours, is “The Highly Sensitive Person in Love: Understanding and Managing Relationships When the World Overwhelms You” by Elaine Aron. “The ADHD Effect on Marriage” by Melissa C. Orlov was very much an eye opener for me. As an Aspie, I also get a lot from “Connecting With Your Asperger Partner: Negotiating the Maze of Intimacy”. When I discovered that Aspergers and ADD can both be present, that was very much an “aha” moment for me.

    Also reading “Is It You, Me, or Adult ADD? Stopping the Roller Coaster When Someone You Love Has Attention Deficit Disorder” by Gina Pera. I don’t know how I could be 66 years old and never have realized some of these things about myself. Thanks again for helping me to understand myself better.

    j

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    • russ (or j?)
      you are most welcome, your note is most gratifying to me.
      sounds like you are reading at least 3 books at the same time – another thing we have in common.
      again, thank you very much for commenting
      best wishes
      doug

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  11. rwkrecklow says:

    I have just discovered your book recently and downloaded it to my Kindle DX. It is the best thing I have ever read that describes me in so many ways. I’m 66 years old, and just coming to the realization that my life has always been difficult for me because of undiagnosed ADDHD, coupled with some Aspie characteristics inherited also, influenced by being HSP and also being influenced by a high sensitivity to sugar. And those are just the things I’ve discovered about myself recently. You have given me the best insight into myself that I’ve ever had. Thank you so much for writing this book and also for putting up this blog. I have a grandson named Michael, too. My wife and I have been married for almost 40 years, and have never understood many of the difficulties we had encountered in our relationship. We’re coming to some better understanding of me and why I do the things I do, and that has helped me more than anything. Thank you so much for showing the way to others.

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    • RWK
      i am so glad that the book is helpful to you, and to your wife too then.
      not sure what hsp is – hispanic??
      i also recommend the book the adhd effect on marriage by melov
      and congratulations on the 40 years
      thank you for your comment, an i hope you will find more comments to make in the future
      best wishes
      doug

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  12. Because I am ADD and all of that good stuff, I’m worrying now that I’ve nominated you for the Liebster Award that maybe you have waaaaay more than 200 followers. Oh well-anyhoo, I nominated your blog because I love the information you share. If you’re interested, please click on the link. If not, hey that’s ok-I’m just giving a shout out to blogs I like today! http://sadderbutwiser.wordpress.com/2012/11/28/awards-i-got-awards/

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  13. Gordian says:

    Hello Doug,

    first of all I would like to thank you for your book. The “close your eyes and summarize, while reading” strategy alone was worth it.
    After reading you book I came to the impression, that my ADD is quite similar to yours and I am now in a situation where I have to write my thesis. So I have got this question:
    How did you write your book? Did you find any additional special strategies (besides those generals ones you described in your book) for collecting material, evaluating, summarizing, making a script etc.?

    Cheers
    Gordian

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    • Gordian says:

      I like to share one strategy I found:

      How to cope with a blank page? Writing some crap just to get started, does not really work for me. I get lost very fast and write something crazy. For example: I sat down and wrote a introduction for my thesis. I began with the reception of computer games in the media, introduced Max Webers “Die protestantische Ethik und der Geist des Kapitalismus”, I cited Nietzsche to show whats wrong with our work ethics and mused how this will change in a “post-scarcity-economy”.
      Then I remembered that my thesis is about the application of machine learning in computer games.

      So the counter strategy:
      If I have a blank page, I start with questions, for example:

      Why is machine learning relevant for games?
      What is machine learning?
      What is a game?
      How do I measure relevancy?
      Why did I choose this game?
      What where my requirements?
      etc.

      This enables me to structure my writings, without knowing specifically what to write. Then I answer the questions and delete them. The answers alone are now a pretty good manuscript, its like magic.

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    • good question, hard to answer.
      i often had an inspiration, something i wanted to write, and then the problem was where to put it.
      wrote small sections at a time, then tried to weave them together. didnt try to write in order, just as moved to adress a subject
      did a fair amount of writing first, then could make a very rough tentative outline of what the major sections would be, then fit the pieces in where they fit.
      always a card in my pocket to jot down ideas as they occurred (now could use the memo app of my i phone).
      tried to make sure i wrote something every day, noted “B” on my bedside notebook as a reward when i did.
      after i got the first draft done i had a lot of people reading the various drafts. the final draft was # 29, lots of revisions and lots of reorganizing, and lots of taking stuff out of it.
      hope this is some help. if i think of anything important later will add it
      good luck and thank you for commenting
      doug

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  14. Maeli Andrade says:

    HI! I loved your book (purchased on Amazon, still reading on my smartphone), and now I found your blog. That’s great!

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  15. Pam says:

    Dear Dr. Puryear:
    I just started your book today and have read several chapters. I think it may be the most helpful of any of the ADD books I’ve read to date. I am enjoying the specific, down-to-earth tips and advice as opposed to the more nebulous theory in other books. I bought the book as an ebook but like it so much that I may order the hard copy. Which brings me to something I’m curious about. Do others with ADD have any trouble with ebooks? Particularly with reference-type books, I like to flip back and forth, read certain passages again, flip to the Table of Contents, double-check the Index, etc. I like to be able to see, “Ah, I’m halfway through this book.” Perhaps for the same reason, I always hated using spreadsheets at work. I want to be able to see “everything” at once. My tablet works fine for lightweight fiction, but otherwise I prefer a hardcopy. Does this have to do with ADD or is it just a personal quirk of mine?

    I am also thrilled to have found your blog! Thanks!

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    • Im thrilled you found it too. i dont know the answer to your question. i have only read one e book and it was ok but i really like books and like you prefer the real thing. however, the book has sold a lot more e books than paper. i will ask the question on the blog.
      thank you for commenting, i appreciate it.

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    • pam
      thought some more about your interesting question. will still blog about it, but i think the main thing is you seem to know what works for you -lightweight fiction on e books, others in paper. so thats good, not a problem. we are each different, and each needs to find what works for us.

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      • Pam says:

        It isn’t so much a problem as just a curiosity about how our minds work. I’m trying to embrace new technology – when I am able. At least with the tablet, you always know where your books are! Now where did I leave that tablet . . .

        Thanks for your comments. Pam

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  16. Michael says:

    I’ve been going through a lot of ADHD books and yours has been the most helpful by far. The five item list is so brilliant and obvious I’m amazed I hadn’t ever considered such an idea. (ps what was your worst computer game addiction, if you don’t mind sharing)

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    • thank you! glad it is helpful. (you could put a review on smashwords.com or amazon.com if youd like)
      worst – hate to remember them, because i still miss them, really enjoyed them, had to throw them away, never got control
      favorite had a fleet of ships trying to blockade the russians coming out of a strait- Strike Fleet. spend many hours with that.

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  17. Scott Marckx says:

    Hi Dr. Puryear,
    My Priest just suggested I look into ADD strategies and I found your book. It is very helpful! Thank you! I think it is my favorite of the 5 or 6 books I have looked at so far.
    I keep thinking of something that a friend of mine told me she does (and that helped her build her own house!) She keeps a progress notebook where she writes down everything she gets done. Lists that get crossed off and thrown away are good, but nothing helps that sense of accomplishment quite as much as being able to look at the long list of things completed.
    Thank you for the work of completing your book so all of us can benefit from it!
    Scott Marckx

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  18. Chuck says:

    Doug, I just found this blog from your book. I haven’t finished the book yet, but so far it speaks to me. I recently started realizing/understanding my ADD because of my son’s diagnosis and his struggles. Thank you for sharing your experiences – they are helpful for me to try and understand myself.

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  19. Nerea says:

    I use Microsoft Outlook, It is often used as an email application, but it also includes a calendar, task manager, contact manager, note taking… I write everything, all the ideas I’ve and I synchronize with my desktop computer. If I lose my PDA I’ve al the information in Outlook, I can go there thougth internet… I’ll tell you everything I do ;-)

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  20. Nerea says:

    Hi Doug,
    I’am reading your book, I had from Ipad Store ;-) I like very very much, it is not like others, I will tell you what I think when I finish. At the moment I agree with list but… I don’t have papers or cards, I write everything in my PDA… Congratulations!!!

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    • thank you so much.
      you use the pda – that just tells me that you are younger and smarter than me, i’m tech challenged.
      plus i was always afraid if i used my pda like that i would just lose it
      would love to get your comments when you finish (both positive and negative)
      thanks

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      • Gordian says:

        Hi,

        all this cloud stuff is very nice. It makes you completely independent of your devices. As long as you have any device (your mobile, desktop, laptop, your friends mobile….) at hand you are in reach of your notes, lists and calender. Additionally your data is not in your hands. For me this is an advantage, because my hands are connected to a brain with thoughts like: “Backup?…. Tomorrow is good enough!” or “Maybe I can swap this component while the pc is running, this would save me 60 seconds.”

        For you tech challenged people, I would recommend the expensive stuff with the apple on it. It is the only stuff out there specifically designed for you people. ;)

        Cheers

        Gordian

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        • sounds great! but i am very tech challenged (dystechnologica) and havent gotten to the cloud yet, still trying to master the i phone my kids gave me and struggling with facebook.
          thanks for the tip
          doug

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  21. Robin Binnig says:

    Ctrl-Z brings back whatever you just deleted, usually. Cursing at the computer doesn’t work, always.

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  22. Sharyn Pinney says:

    Doug, I am thrilled to discover your blog. Funny, beautifully written, and great pics. Congrats on new book! Sharyn

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    • well thank you and thank you for leaving a comment. feel free to share the blog with anyone it might interest or be useful to : )
      this is all new to me trying tot learn how to make it work. for ex, sometimes comments show up and sometimes not.- whats that about???

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